Samantha's Story Part 1: We Assumed It Would Happen

Most little girls dream of getting married and having children with her prince. I did not have that fairytale in my head. I always expected it would be easy to have children whenever I wanted so when I became a woman I just enjoyed my space, freedom and my time to play.

My name is Samantha and I am 24 years old. I met my husband when I was 19 years old, he was 27. We were married in 2006, and both of us wanted children as soon as it would happen. We have never prevented pregnancies. I began to read fertility books and tips, and we tried different natural tips for about a year, however, we were enjoying our time as a newly married couple so we did not panic when our results were not ideal right away. At a regular checkup the summer before my 21st birthday my family doctor told me that I have symptoms of PCOS. He explained that we can look into it further if my husband and I didn’t have success becoming pregnant. He prescribed clomid and progesterone. We were completely ecstatic thinking it was a magic pregnancy pill. Obviously we were naïve. We were disappointed when this method did not produce a pregnancy but we were determined to keep trying. By this time we were getting a little more anxious than we had been before. My husband went in for a sperm analysis in July of 2007. Everything came back great! Yet again we were optimistic and reassured that everything was just “fine”.

From July of 2007-Spring of 2008 we tried what seemed like a million different things. We did the basal body temperature charts with ovulation predictors combined with clomid. We timed intercourse and tried the favorable positions that we had read in books and online. Everyone kept telling us that it would happen when the time was right. That statement still gets under my skin to this day. Whoever is in charge of making the time and circumstances right sure has a sense of humor! When friends and family made these type if statements it made me feel like they were not sympathetic to our desire to build a family.

We have never prevented pregnancy but we were not actively trying anymore. I believe we were exhausted. It kind of felt like maybe we needed to just be grateful for our little family of 2. I have always been a woman well ahead of my years and more responsible than my peers. However, I did think that maybe everyone was right about the “timing” having everything to do with it. Afterall, I am so young. It was easier to have that outlook even though my case is different from most women my age. I was grounded and committed and truly ready to start my family. Meanwhile my sisters are having children left and right and my friends are getting pregnant by the minute it seemed. I just realized that I was tired and I needed a break.

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Samantha's Story Part 2: Once the Dust Settled
Samantha's Story Part 3: Obviously, Things Didn't Go the Way I Planned